Billie Eilish’s Not My Responsibility: A Callout of Society’s Double Standards

  Billie Eilish’s Not My Responsibility is more than just a song. It’s a powerful micdrop aimed at society and the media’s obsession with women’s bodies. Eilish puts the spotlight on the exhausting and often contradictory expectations placed on women with raw vulnerability, challenging us to rethink why we’re so quick to judge others. The song feels deeply personal yet also universal, making space for something countless women face every day: the impossible task of living up to everyone’s standards.

Eilish lays it all out clearly, stating “if I wear what is comfortable, I am not a woman. If I shed the layers, I’m a slut” (Eilish, 2020). These lines hit hard, exposing the impossible double standard women are stuck with: damned if we do, damned if we don’t. It’s a clear critique of the patriarchal systems that base women’s value on their appearance. This isn’t just a problem Billie faces. This a problem infused in society and reinforced through everything from Instagram highlights to the way the media obsesses with what celebrities are wearing. 

What makes this piece so powerful is the way Eilish directly addresses those that are doing the judging by asking pointed questions. “Do you know me? Really know me?... Would you like me to be smaller, weaker, softer?... Do my shoulders provoke you? Does my chest?... The body I was born with, is it not what you wanted?” (Eilish, 2020). SHe forces listeners to confront their own complicity and place in this system. Take a listen. It may make you uncomfortable, but that’s the point. That’s what feminist perspectives are all about: “[focusing] on the taken-for-granted as "normal" roles and rules for men and women in society” (Sellnow, 2010, p. 139) and asking why they exist in the first place. 

Eilish’s message in this song aligns perfectly with radical feminist perspectives, “[revealing] how objectifying hegemonic beliefs and behaviors based on sex, gender, or sexual orientation are reinforced or challenged in some way” (Sellnow, 2010, p. 145). The patriarchal system we live in didn’t just happen by accident–it’s reinforced every time we reduce a woman’s worth to her looks or judge her for stepping outside of the box. Not my Responsibility is EIlish’s way of saying “Enough.”

At its core, this song asks an important question: why do we let other people define our value? It’s a question worth answering, whether you’re the one doing the judging, being judged, or both. Eilish doesn’t offer the answer, but she does start the conversation. Maybe the first step toward breaking free from expectations is asking, “Is my value based only on your perception? Or is your opinion of me not my responsibility?” (Eilish, 2020).

References: 

Eilish, B. (2020). Not my responsibility [Song]. On Happier Than Ever. Darkroom/Interscope Records. 

Sellnow, D. (2010). The rhetorical power of popular culture: Considering mediated texts. (pp. 139-168). Sage. 

The Influence of Pop Culture Marketing: The Disneyfication of Nostalgia

Pop culture is more than just entertainment- it's a system of everyday objects, events, and actions that shape how we think and act (Sellnow, 2010). Nostalgia is one of its most powerful tools, and companies like Disney expertly use it to drive profits. By tapping into beloved childhood memories, Disney encourages consumers to revisit familiar stories while subtly reinforcing ideas about the past. This "Disneyfication" of nostalgia shows just how pervasive and persuasive pop culture can be.

Disney’s marketing highlights how mediated pop culture influences us on many levels. Consider the live-action remakes of The Lion King (Favreau, 2019) and Beauty and the Beast (Condon, 2017). These films closely resemble their animated originals, but with updated elements designed to capture modern audiences. This approach creates a rhetorical

illusion of realism and intimacy, making viewers feel a stronger emotional connection. According to parasocial interaction theory, these perceived bonds with characters foster trust and familiarity (Sellnow, 2010). However, this emotional pull often prioritizes profit over creativity, as many remakes merely recycle old narratives rather than offer fresh reinterpretations.

Nostalgia-driven marketing has ethical implications because it shapes how we remember history. While pop culture feeds and preserves collective memory, it also presents sanitized versions of the past. Take Disney’s portrayal of princesses: newer films attempt to challenge outdated gender roles, but nostalgic marketing often highlights more traditional representations. As a result, symbolic meanings tied to these characters remain rooted in earlier, (sometimes problematic) cultural values. By repeatedly presenting these images, Disney reinforces accepted ideas about gender norms, possibly subtly influencing what society views as “normal” or “ideal.”

Nostalgia is more than just a feel-good trip down memory lane—it’s a site of cultural power. Disney’s dominant role in nostalgic media reflects its privileged position in defining “family-friendly” entertainment and shaping societal norms. Yet this power often goes unquestioned, perpetuating cycles of familiar narratives and values without critical engagement from the audience (us).

So, how do we become more mindful consumers of nostalgia-saturated media? Media literacy helps us question the messages we absorb. For instance, how do Disney’s remakes uphold or challenge traditional power dynamics? Are they reflections of genuine progress, or are they commodified versions of the past? If pop culture mirrors and molds society, recognizing its influence allows us to choose which beliefs to accept or challenge.

As nostalgia remains a dominant force in pop culture marketing, we must think critically about its impact. What fresh, innovative stories could emerge from breaking this cycle of recycled storytelling? How might this reflect a broader range of voices and experiences? Grappling with these questions empowers us to navigate the world of pop culture with greater awareness.

References: 

Favreau, J. (Director). (2019). The Lion King [Film]. Walt Disney Pictures.

Condon, B. (Director). (2017). Beauty and the Beast [Film]. Walt Disney Pictures.

Sellnow, D. (2010). The rhetorical power of popular culture: Considering mediated texts (pp. 1-25). Sage.